I often encounter people asking me “kembar yer? Dua-dua
lelaki ke? Macam mana jaga?” Yes, it is
not easy. Sorry ya, I don’t know how to
lie to say the otherwise.
The first week, I realized sleeping now fall into the
category of luxury item. I barely had my
sleep. They both cried at night. The pain of the C-Section gone after the first
day. Gone as I just have to ignore it.
My confinement lady only managed to come for few days cos
she herself terrrrpreggy (boleh???). So
yes basically I had to do everything by myself (and of course my parents were
there to assist as much as they can). But
the main responsibility still on me. My
bertunku time is at nite…. Once my husband came back from work and the babies
are asleep. At this first month…. I tried
to spell the word SLEEPING…. And I usually fall asleep after the letter E.
Here are some sharing…
Rule #1
There are no right or wrong.
Rule #2
Act according to the
situation. We may face the situation
(always I must say) where both of them cry at the same time. For example, what if Twin 1 cry of wanting
milk and Twin 2 may have his or her “lil small business”. Prepare the milk and give it to the hungry
one so that when you are cleaning the other, another will stay quiet. And if you feel bad of keeping the Twin 2
crying – refer to Rule #1!
Rule #3
Sleeping pattern – train them to
sleep about the same timing so that you can get your rest while they are
asleep. I did this when my mum went back
to her house after my confinement and I left with no maid at home. Babies are adaptable. After a while, I managed to understand their
pattern and put them to sleep at the same time.
I use the help of baby cradle a.k.a BUAI. Some parents are afraid of using buai because
they don’t want to carry the buai everywhere they go. Yes if you have only one baby to attend at a
time… your theory may work.. but when you have two…hahahahhaa… use whatever
helps you can get. And there are some
mothers believe in some old saying buaian is not good for babies – refer to
Rule #1. Over the weekend, try to put
them to sleep without using the cradle so that they can be used to any
situation. Remember – babies are
adaptable.
Rule #4
Plan – it is important to plan
your day. You may be a full time housewife
(serious tabik hormat!) or a working mum.
Since I was a full time housewife for 9 months I can tell this – plan
your day! For example, your babies sleep
twice a day during daylight. When you
wake up put all the dirty clothes in the washing machine and let it run. Then you can attend to the babies. And when they have their morning nap say
about 10am… go and hang your clothes and if you need some nap – Take it!! If you don’t – you can start do some
housework etc. When the babies take
their second nap, you can start cooking.
Whatever it is – don’t forget to steal some time to rest.
Rule #5
Share responsibility - How is baby formed? Apart of
a dad (sperm) and mom (egg) come together they start forming. You see the word DAD there? Please don’t be too greedy to carry the
SuperMum title with you alone. You will
always be a SuperMum regardless what.
Let your husband share the responsibility to take care of their own
babies too. If they don’t know – they
will learn. I bet you learned how to
change diapers from someone or somewhere too right? So why are you giving excuses for your
husband? They are the father of the
child. (This Rule #5 applicable to all
parents out there – with or without twins)
Rule #6
Outsource – it is not easy to
clean the house and manage the twins (especially at their early years) at the
same time. Outsource your cleaning service. If you can afford you can do it weekly,
otherwise once a month. Trust me – it
helps a lot!
Rule #7
FAQ – whenever you are in your
stressful moment, talk to someone who may understand your situation. Ask them whether this is normal or whatever question
you may have in your mind. Preferably
someone with twins too!
Rule #8
Managing Cost – Imagine everything
is double including cost.
Diapers - If you can afford
expensive diapers e.g. Huggies or MamyPoko, by all mean – go ahead. But if you can’t – please refer to this
idioms “ukur baju dibadan sendiri”. It
is ok to use Drypers or PetPet or other brands.
Need not to use those dry pants all.
Yes, they run all over the house.
But then again, who are you kidding?
Formulated Milk – Again…if you
can afford S-26 or anything at that range – please go ahead. If you can’t – There are always Nestle, Dumex
etc. Whichever that to the liking of your
babies.
This applies to any other things
including clothes, shoes etc. There is
no need to buy Mickey Mouse or expensive clothing for the children….. Who are
you competing with? What does your
pocket says? Tepuk dada Tanya Poket….
Not Selera cos selera is nafsu hahahahahaha
Rule #9
Baby Cot – Let them sleep at
their own space. Tak payahlah beli baby
cot that cost you RM800. Just buy the
cheap play pen that you can put the mattress in it. You know how tired you can be after handling
the two and the short period of time that you get to rest especially at night
when they wakes up every 3 hours or so.
Sleep and Rest comfortably. Give
them their space and have yours. You
don’t love them any less by putting them in their baby cot ok.
Rule #10
Ignore Opinions that are not
facts. With all due respect, some
opinions are just non-factual. You will
experience people asked you questions like “Eh kenapa you tak buat macam ni…”,
“wouldn’t it be better if you do this…”, “I experienced the same….. though
bukan kembar tapi setahun satu” etc etc…. take whatever you think can be useful
to you and just ignore those that you thing is not applicable to you.
Well… this is only my sharing
from my 2 years experience of roller coaster ride with my precious twins. Yes I do get tired physically and emotionally
MOST of the time especially when I need to think how to fit in every shoe…. Of
course there are times when I just cry for no reason hahahahahaha… but then…
life must goes on! Thank you for reading
and hope this sharing may help you in any ways. #love
